"Daddy, I'm scared!!!"
- Deanna Courtney
- Oct 30, 2023
- 3 min read
Updated: Apr 11
A Different Way to Understand Asthma
Do you have a little one who has been struggling with asthma? Have you ever considered that it may be connected to their experiences?
Let us explore this through the lens of Germanic Healing Knowledge (GHK)—a perspective that brings clarity to what may otherwise feel random or unpredictable.”
What if asthma is not random… but a meaningful adaptation?
Within this understanding, asthma is a healing response that follows an unexpected scare or fear-based experience in a child’s environment.
Short, mild scares → brief healing
Longer or intense fear → deeper symptoms
Common Triggers
👻 Scary or unfamiliar characters in movies or books
💥 Sudden loud noises such as fireworks
🏡 Starting a new daycare or unfamiliar environment
🩺 Medical or clinical experiences that may feel overwhelming or confusing
💔 Tension or emotional stress within the home
What Happens in the Moment
During the initial fear response, a child may:
❄️ Have cold hands
😢 Cry, freeze, or withdraw
🙈 Cover their eyes
🙉 Cover their ears
🗣️ Say “I’m scared” or resist
The Key Insight
The length and intensity of stress determines the intensity of healing.
This is where your awareness becomes powerful.
When you respond quickly with comfort and safety, you shorten the stress phase—and the healing becomes lighter.
What Support Looks Like
Remove them gently from the situation
Reassure and comfort
Let them express what they feel
You may later notice:
tiredness
a mild cough
then resolution
What to Avoid
❌ “Toughen up”
❌ “It’s not scary”
❌ Forcing them through fear
When fear is prolonged or dismissed, the body compensates with stronger symptoms—and patterns can repeat.
Stories:
My baby was brought into the world by C-section, earlier than expected.
In those first moments, he was taken to be cared for separately in an incubator.
And while we often move quickly through these moments as adults…if we pause and consider the experience through a newborn’s perspective, a question begins to emerge:
Where is the heartbeat that is all I have known?
When we were finally reunited, I noticed something I would come to understand more deeply later…he experienced his first coughing episode.
As time went on, I began to see a pattern.
Each time we returned to a medical setting, his body would respond again—a cough emerging alongside visible signs of unease.
What I came to recognize was this:
His system remembered.
And when a similar environment was encountered, his body responded as if the original experience was happening again.
A Child’s Perspective
To us, this may seem like just a character in a story.
But to a young child…
this can feel overwhelming.
Unfamiliar features. Intense expression. A presence they have never encountered before.
In their world, this is not “pretend.”
It is real in the moment.
I was reading The Little Mermaid to my grandson, who was about 2 at the time.
When I turned the page to Ursula—the big, unfamiliar character—he immediately covered his eyes.
I gently turned the page, reassured him, and helped him feel safe again.
Later, during nap time, he had a small cough… and then it passed.
Short conflict → short healing.
A Living Example of Change
In the image below is my brother Richard with his son Michael.
One year, Michael was deeply frightened by Halloween masks.
The following year, instead of forcing exposure, his father invited him to participate—to paint his own face.
Slowly. Gently. Safely.
This time… there was no fear.
Only curiosity, engagement, and confidence.
This is what happens when the nervous system learns:
“I am safe.”
A New Way Forward
When you begin to see through your child’s eyes…everything changes.
You stop pushing.
You start guiding.
You create safety first—and from there, resilience naturally forms.
A Moment of Recognition
For many parents, there comes a quiet realization…
“This makes more sense than anything I’ve come across before.”
“I just wish I had understood this sooner.”
Not because something new was added…
But because something finally clicked into place.
Your Next Step
If you’re beginning to see your child’s experience in a new way, there are two gentle paths forward:
Walk through the Doorway of Clarity→ Begin understanding what your child’s symptoms may be communicating
Or schedule a 15-minute conversation→ A simple, supportive space to connect, ask questions, and explore what’s possible
#ConsciousParenting #ChildrensHealth #AsthmaAwareness #GermanicHealingKnowledge #RootCauseHealing #SanctuaryOfTheInnerSong #UpYourVibe
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